Domestic Violence In The Military

Domestic Violence is a real issue in military families.

Sadly, this doesn't shock me as much as it should. Domestic Violence is a very real problem in the military. People get so turned on by their own masculinity, their own important, they just can't deal with the needs of other people, especially their wives and kids. 

So the wives and kids get beat on.

What does shock me is the veritable cloud of support these guys ride on. In the past two months, there been several incidents around my post. An amazing number of people in the units checking in on these folks to make sure they're OK, checking to make sure he's surviving this attack on their persons and careers by their crazed, evil wives. 

I've never seen anything like it. It's not just the men, either. A lot of the women in the unit have been talking about these *other* women, these women who go and make up lies to get attention, or who treat their husbands so badly that they deserve to be hit. 

One woman in my unit said that this incident reminded her of all the sluts over in Iraq, the female soldiers who slept around, and then when were about to be called down for their behavior, started making up stories about how they were raped. The woman in my unit, she went on for a while about those horrible sluts ruining the careers of good men.

Sometimes it's all I can do to keep my chow down. I don't know how to respond to this level of bullshit. Women are just assumed to exist at this place of craziness, dishonesty, and weakness. Sure, some can rise above it by acting as masculine as possible, but oh man, those women. 

If soldiers do condemn their comrades for hitting their wives, the condemnation is often for stupidly endangering one's career, not for doing harm to someone they are suppose to... well, not do harm to. 

Part of my job is looking out for the soldiers who work for me. When one of them gets in trouble with Domestic Violence, that are still my responsibility. I have no fucking clue what do there. It not enough for me to chew them out for being violent ass-holes, I'm also suppose to put them on the path to redemption. 

It's fucking crazy sometimes. 

What am I going to do? Write a really good counseling statement? Send him over to the Chaplain's office? Put him in the front leaning rest for a few hours? 

Shit.

Sometimes this place really eats at you. 

Comments

[Irene M.]

How are the wives and kids doing?

[petroski]

hi i am a marine wife i am one of the crazy wives. the one who got hit on and beat and left and now no one will help me. i can barely git my x to pay my support and hes out getting tattoos and hotel rooms his ssg has shun me and all the while i have the pics to show haw bad he beat me up. no wonder we don't speak out we went threw hell and got out just to go threw hell all over again simper fi my ass my x is not a marine hes a fucking pussy